EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IN NIGERIA

Dear Nigeria,
I am sorry I couldn’t speak with you yesterday. It was my rest day.
I also observed that people were consumed with you,
So I decided to wait till you could create time for me.
I met you about 4 decades ago.
It was love at first sight.
I was in love with all I was told you could become.
But as decades passed by, it became an abusive home.
The more I loved you, the less I received.
I kept praying and hoping for an intervention but alas,
I have accepted my reality.
You will always exist but I will not so I have to invest my life wisely.
I have to accept the fact that I can love you from afar.
I am also not called to you alone, I was instructed to go ye into the world…
So I have obeyed the instruction.
I still love you but I can’t fix you alone.
All you have become is also not your fault.
You are who we are. Though we hate to admit it.
And if you have to change, we all have to change.
We have to prioritise people preservation and earth preservation.
We have to accept the fact that great Nations are built from emotionally stable families.
Happy diamond jubilee.
May the rest of your life be the best of your years.
Ever wondered why you can’t say what you feel the way you feel it?
Well, it’s the same way you will not eat a live chicken when you feel like eating chicken,
Or bite a live goat when you feel like eating goat meat.
Words are not meant to be uttered without been refined.
Words are meant to be processed through your cognitive centre.
Uttering words without mental edit exposes your emotional deficiency.
It makes discerning minds know that you are mentally lazy.
You prefer not to think.
You love short cuts.
As you think it, you say it.
That is why you say it as it is or give a piece of your mind.
Lack of filter will make you lose money, clients, prospects and relationships.
Your mouth will affect your credit alerts.
No one appreciates rudeness or anyhowness.
Not even you.
So stop boasting about your spirit of dramatic rudeness.
Embrace mental edit.
Sieve your thoughts into kind words.
Your style of delivery is as important as the content of the delivery.
Invest in your emotional intelligence.
Something interesting happened to me recently.
I reached out to sow a seed into the life of a lady who has been a constant spiritual blessing.
Then she gave me a call but I missed it so I returned it.
She then went ahead to share a sad story on how I hurt her with my words about 6 years ago.
I couldn’t remember the incident. Neither did I forget. I just knew something transpired but I couldn’t remember what.
She on the other hand remembered vividly. She emptied her heart to me by telling me all she brooded over for 6 years.
I took responsibility for the pain by uttering the words.
I was wrong.
I am sorry.
Please forgive me.
I can’t remember the sin but as long as I hurt her. I am sorry.
Life is too short to prove points, act defensively or feed my ego.
I am an emotionally intelligent adult.
A part of our growing community and are interested in the life-changing transformation available to every one of us.
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A life that is barely recognisable from my past in two years.
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Emotional intelligence for children is very significant.
Every terrorist was once a child.
Every rapist was once a child.
Every icon was once a child.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn what envy is.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.
If children live with encouragement, they learn to be confident.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate.
If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.
If children live with serenity, they learn to have peace of mind.
WITH WHAT ARE YOUR CHILDREN LIVING?
What are they learning from you?
It is time to raise more emotionally intelligent children in Nigeria.
Emotional intelligence is one way to make the world a better place. Here’s a personal encounter I two years ago. I drove by a boli seller who was roasting her plantain under the rain at Ilupeju. I parked and asked why she wasn’t under a shade. She said if she left her wares on fire they will get burnt. I gave her a few notes and drove off to church.
While at church. I had tears in my eyes. I couldn’t imagine my mum roasting plantain in the rain. I kept pondering about it till I posted it on Facebook. A friend from the United States reached out to donate to her. 48 hours after I drove back to her to hand her about 250k.
She busted into tears and said to me in Yoruba language that she has been praying that God should send her a helper. A month after she reached out to my staff to say she is no longer under a shade. She now sells from a shop at her house. She used the money to fix her uncompleted building at Sango-Ota, Ogun State and sells from there. Sales is also good.
We are the breakthrough people are praying for. Play your part not because you have enough but because you are human. An emotional intelligent soul. I am glad she became a landlord before me.